The Art of Over Complicating na How to Avoid It

0003 IS_8861705041For some reason humans have some gene that wants to make simple issues complex. Over complicating. Making something bigger than it is. Creating a mountain out of a molehill.

Take my niece for example, she dropped out of high school and now 2 years later she decided she wants to go the college. There are many successful people who had a similar path, right? I decided to help her in this process, so we started to look for the best resources.

There are several free websites that offer career tests, and we favored few websites, I really like the mycareertools career test  because it’s so visual and based on pictures. This worked pretty well we were making a progress until my niece started to have doubts  about everything, her ability to learn, her future plans, books and websites.  She wanted to argue about everything!

Call it what you want, but there aren’t very many things that mess up situations in life more than making a problem or situation grow to disproportionately. Think of the last time you had an argument or disagreement with someone – did you find it escalate? Each side digging their heels in more?

Simplify: Why to Eliminate the Clutter

 164ASP12534164“Simplicity, simplicity, simplicity! I say let your affairs be as one, two, three and to a hundred or a thousand. We are happy in proportion to the things we can do without.” Henry David Thoreau

I’m feeling the need to simplify my life. Most of my problems are due to one thing: clutter. Too many responsibilities, too many thoughts and most important of them all, too much STUFF. Not all of this is bad, of course. Most “responsibilities” are fun and what I love to do, my mind is full of ideas (unorganized as they are) and aspirations, and my space has a lot of things that I love and are necessary. I’m sure things are similar for you.

As I’m on a never ending mission to create peace in my mind by reducing the useless and self-limiting mind chatter, I’ve decided to focus on the physical. Is there anything in your life that weighs you down? Stresses you out? Or causes way too much anxiety? I know I can think of a thing or two or hundred. This is why I’m going to start on a journey of eliminating a TBD amount of stuff from my life. I’d like to share it here because this is inherently and intrinsically tied to my happiness and my capability to follow my dreams. That is true health right there and you all know how I feel about that! Anyone want to join in?!

Seven Magic Words That Will Change Your Life

Were you ever told something as a kid and…suddenly…you remember it as an adult? I was recently reminded of a message I heard when I was young. It was reinforced one Sunday morning in church for me a few years ago. This message is only seven words but has the power to change your life. Normally, I don’t like making statements like that. But in this case I’m making an exception. Here are the Seven Magic Words:

You Have Not Because You Ask Not.”

Doesn’t get much simpler. I am often asked the following:

  • Question: How were you able to get education?  Answer: I asked, I asked for help
  • Question: How were you able to raise capital for your businesses? Answer: I asked.
  • Question: How are you able to sell through the mail? Answer: I ask for the sale.

Oversimplification? Perhaps. But I don’t think so. When I first started out in business with vending machines, I would come home after going on sales calls and sulk. I did everything but ask for the sale. Presented the features and benefits. Proved beyond doubt my service was good. Result? No ask, no results.  I have trouble getting ahead with education, until I asked for help. Now I support people who dare to ask for help, can ask for help and people like I offer advice. This is my message you need to ask, asking for help is part of your success!

Holy Awkwardness Batman

Today was a busy day. I was on the road at 8:30 am and didn’t get home until 10:30.  I’m exhausted. First a coworker asked me to drive him down to DC to drop off a car that needed to be made accessible.  We then had to take the Amtrak back to Baltimore followed by a cab ride back to my coworkers parking lot so I could pick up my car.  Then my coworker and his wife offered to take me to lunch.

I then had to run home and pick up D.  I then took him to Walmart to pick up a gift and went off to a (hard to explain) mini early work related Christmas party (don’t ask).

THEN, D and I had been invited to a holiday party, so off we go to Columbia (30 min away) for their party. We walk in … and the hostess says hi … the host doesn’t bother getting up.  D and I get a drink and sit down … and talk to ourselves.

Push Past Your Boundaries

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 099ASPea3365443In many a yoga class I’ve heard it. “Play your edge.” What does this mean?

To play your edge means to always teeter on the brink of your comfort zone. I think of this like a circle. In the middle you’re warm, cozy, safe, not doing anything too risky (or fun). Step out a little further…and a little further and you’re at that painted yellow line. You’re still safe behind that yellow line, but not quite as comfy as the middle. Go past the line, maybe stick your toes off the edge of the circle. Here is where you kind of freak out a little, you’re not feeling safe, but you are doing something worth while. Eventually the circle grows past your toes and there you are, ready to step out a little more, lesson in hand.

I decided to run a half marathon in January 2011. Apparently, my “I’m over races” attitude is gone and I’m excited to take this training a little differently than last time. This season I’m going to be working on speed, strength (lots of yoga!), and playing my edge. Since my marathon in June, I’ve been anything but keeping up my endurance. Of course, I’ve ran, but not more than 2 and a half miles.

Make Friends With Fear

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Last night I heard a commercial for an insurance company that said something to the affect of , “taking the ‘scared’ out of life.” I spent a lot of time ruminating about fear this weekend and had to laugh at the ridiculousness of that statement.

Life is absolutely not about eliminating your fear. It’s not about waiting until you’re no longer afraid. Or, working at getting over it.

It is about co-existing with fear and doing what you’re most afraid of anyway.

We all have fears. We all especially have fears that prevent us from doing what we want (or are called) to do. I realized on Sunday that I (and you!) will always have fear (duh). There is no magical pill that is going to make it go away. Of course, things will get easier and maybe your fear for that particular thing will dissolve, but then there will be a new fear facing you head on.

The Right Wing Elevates An Obscure Solar Scientist To The Status Of Climate Change Expert

A few weeks ago I wrote only semi-jokingly that Big Oil had resorted to hiring little-known overseas scientists to bolster its latest propaganda campaign on global warming:Yes, we finally admit that global warming is happening, but it’s happening because of … the Sun!

Unable to purchase the opinion of any prominent American scientists—after all, their reputation would be ruined for taking money to promote a false view—the right wing had to offshore its propaganda.

The obscure scientist in question is Habibullo Adbussamotov, head of space research at Russia’s Pulkovo Astronomical Observatory. He claims that the current rise in Earth’s average temperature is caused not by greenhouse gases or any other terrestrial source but by increased energy being emitted by the Sun. The proof, he claims, is in NASA data on Mars, which shows that the Martian icecaps have been receding over the past 3 years.

However, from the papers that Adbussamotov has published over the years, although he appears to know a thing or two about solar phenomena, he’s definitely no expert on Earth’s climate:

  • A search with Google Scholar turns up 29 papers, ranging in date from 1971 to the present.
  • All of those papers deal either with the Sun’s behavior or with techniques for observing the Sun from Earth.
  • Not one paper deals with Earth’s climate, let alone the subject of global climate change.

To a Life of Love

1) Today marks my 26th year on this beautiful earth!

2) After three years in the corporate world and 26 years of knowing that I’m not a corporate, 9-5, cubicle person I have officially QUIT!!!!!!!! My last day is January 31st.

There are three things I know:

  • it is your absolute right to fill your day with love
  • you deserve to have passionate, purposeful “work”
  • you deserve to wake up excited for each and every day

These things have been completely lacking in my life so I made a plan. Well, I’m taking my 401K retirement fund and running! (Disclaimer: I don’t condone this. Maybe I do.)

I’m choosing to trust what my heart is telling me and taking a huge leap of faith. I don’t know exactly what my future holds, but I do know it is going to be bright, amazing and filled with love!

I urge you to ask yourself. If you’re not happy with how you spend the bulk of your time, what can you do to change it? Hint: “nothing,” “I have no choice,” and “impossible” are not involved.

Journals and Self Love

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Hello lovies! I’m so excited that tomorrow is Thursday, because that means I’m one day closer to my trip to NY!!!! I’m originally from Long Island and am going home for a whole 10 days! That means one whole week of vacay AND I’m celebrating my cousin’s wedding AND I’m a bridesmaid. I can’t wait!

I have lots of exciting things on the agenda so next week should be a fun one to say the least. And a hot one I’m sure since I’ve been hearing horror stories of 100 degrees plus humidity. What’s humidity? I think I’ve blocked that out of my memory.

Last night I did something I haven’t done in a long time. In almost a year to be exact, and it felt gooood.

Get your mind outta the gutter.

I JOURNALED!

I never journaled every day or even every week, but only when I felt moved to write. Last night I had the urge so I dug out my little book and wrote and wrote and wrote.

When the Channel is Blocked

I found the following quote in one of my favorite books ever: The Red Book: A Deliciously Unorthodox Approach to Igniting Your Divine Spark by Sera Beak.

“There is a vitality, a life force, a quickening that is translated through you into action. And because there is only one of you in time, this expression is unique. And if you block it, it will never exist through any other medium and be lost. The world will not have it. It is not your business to determine how good it is: nor how it compares with other expressions. It is your business to keep it yours, clearly and directly. To keep the channel open” ~Martha Graham

I’m re-reading this fabulous book because I have a situation. My channel is blocked.

When this channel is blocked I feel lost, irritated and on edge. I start to question myself, get annoyed with others easily and wonder what the point is. I lose touch with my creativity and can’t find the inspiration to act or express my truest self. See why it’s a situation?

The silly thing about being in this place is that it invites you in and has that comfortable familiarity. It’s tricky like that. It makes you want to stay for a while and get settled in.